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What I've Learned in Four Years Of Marriage



Today Andrew and I are celebrating four years of marriage! It has gone by really fast. Probably because we keep having kids and babies kinda speed up time. But in all seriousness....It feels like just yesterday we were getting ready to say "I do" and then celebrate with our friends and family.


I wanted to share with you a little bit of a highlight reel from the last four years. The things that stick out in my mind the most. I'm not going to make this an "advice" post. I think it would be silly to pretend that my four years of marriage has mastered all there is to learn about this beautiful sacrament. However, these four years have left some thoughts and reflections on certain milestones that I'm sure I'll still be holding close to my heart the day we celebrate our 50th...


~We had our first little place. A cute little condo with brightly colored walls. I remember being so proud of that place. It wasn't much but it was our first home together. I cooked our first dinner as a married couple there, made Andrew's lunches for work, and cleaned the kitchen with a lot of pride. We put together furniture (well more like Andrew did) and cleaned bathrooms. We even brought our first born son home from the hospital to that little condo.


~We went to a foreign country together. I watched Andrew totally blossom in a new setting. I couldn't keep up. He wanted to take in everything and try new things at every turn. I saw my husband's love of adventure come out and I was so happy that I was the one joining him on the greatest journey of all...

~ I saw Andrew become a father. I saw a light turn on within him that I had never seen before. I watched him rock our oldest son to sleep. I watched him change many diapers and clean up several blow outs. I watched him fall asleep with Peter on his chest... Father and son, a bond that is still growing today, right before my very eyes.

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~We quickly jumped from a family of three, to a family of four. And as I stared at the positive pregnancy test in utter disbelief and fear of the future, he laughed. My husband laughed and told me we'd figure it all out. He didn't pretend to have all the answers and if he was worried he didn't let me see it. He just told me that he loved me and that we could do this.

~I've watched Andrew come into his role as provider for the family. Putting in long hours and working hard to make sure we have the things we need. Doing everything he can to make sure we are taken care of.

~We've learned a lot about each other. Andrew learned I have a shopping problem and I've learned that one of his love languages is a tidy house. Andrew puts up with my love of Instagram and I put up with his love of video games. We've learned about finances the hard way but we're also learning from our mistakes and working on being smarter with what God has given us.


~Then we went from four to five....God blessed us with a little baby girl. Andrew's relationship with his sons is so special but it's amazing to see his relationship with Aria develop. That father daughter bond is so incredible. He reads to her from his comic books and she reaches for his face excitedly when we Face Time. This baby girl has him wrapped around her little finger.

~And now we look and plan for the future. We want to buy a house, work on finances, and have more kids. We want to make some dreams and goals a reality and continue to grow in our faith. We want to be better at trusting in God and his plan for our family. We know that only so much is actually in our control. But what I do know is that there is no one else I would rather have by my side on this journey.

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